My father-in-law passed away a few days ago. He was a kind and hard-working man, a man who took great satisfaction in helping others. We love him and we miss him.
My brother-in-law asked me to share a few spiritual thoughts at the funeral. And so I have contemplated the truly important things in life these past days.
I have pondered specific doctrines of my faith that bring me peace and comfort. I have reflected on how to share those teachings with family and friends who will come seeking consolation and solace. And I have evaluated the humble yet successful life of my father-in-law and questioned whether I measure up to his standards.
Success can be an elusive thing. And it is especially elusive if you do not have a clear vision of what constitutes success.
Last year I celebrated a milestone birthday, the completion of another decade of life. As I evaluated my own journey, I reflected on the traits that make up a successful life. Here are a few of my thoughts:
- Be kind. Be especially kind to those who cannot do anything for you. Love your neighbor. Lift the burdens of those around you.
- Express gratitude frequently. A thankful heart is a happy heart.
- Never compromise your integrity. A reputation that takes a lifetime to earn may be ruined by a single impulsive act. Your integrity cannot be taken from you, but you can destroy it through your own actions.
- Make time for the truly important things in life. Faith. Family. Friends. Schedule in the big things first, and you will have ample room for the details of life.
- Keep learning. Innovate. Try new things. We live in a world of endless possibilities. Experience life. Dream big.
- Disagree respectfully. Understand the difference between the person and the point of disagreement. Find common ground. Listen to understand.
- Be prepared. Show up on time. Do your homework. Plan ahead.
- Be a mentor. Pay it forward. Develop a genuine interest in young people. Serve others.
- Ask for forgiveness. Own up to your mistakes. Repair the damage you have caused. Then change and be better.
- Forgive readily and completely. Forgive yourself. Allow others to change. Forgive those who have offended you even if they do not seek forgiveness. Forgiveness does not make you beholden to bad behavior. Instead, it enables you to take control of your life and have peace in your heart.
- Eat good food with family and friends. Life is too short to eat alone. Live. Laugh. Love.
Even with a clear vision of what constitutes a successful life, we all stumble and fall from time to time. I am grateful for those who turn a blind eye to my failings and love me nonetheless.
“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”
What is your recipe for a successful life?